How to Set Boundaries to Build Thriving Relationships’ by School of Greatness Podcast

 

Lewis Howes, the founder of School of Greatness and Chris Lee introduce how to create relationships that work.

Boundaries are essential for healthy relationships. Knowing and keeping boundaries build trust in a relationship.

Boundaries aren’t chains. Neither are they ultimatums. When you communicate your boundaries, you are making a request. While you’re at it, you got to offer something when you make your request. Let the other party know what you promise to give into this relationship and what you can be counted on. Knowing your own boundaries also means that when someone makes a request that you are not comfortable with, you are able to say no and renegotiate.

Being able to express what works for me and what doesn’t work for me is what is going to define your boundaries. If you can’t set the boundaries, soon resentment will rise because you will cross the other person’s boundaries without knowing since we are not mind-readers.

Your self-worth has to not depend on how others or a specific person treat you. Put your oxygen mask on first. It isn’t your significant other’s responsibility to make you feel worthy.

If you have self-worth, you aren’t afraid to be alone, but you are happy alone. You can begin to find your self-worth when you become grateful for things in life that you are blessed with. Start with small things. Recognize how many blessings you’ve been granted. 🙂

‘Saint Or A Sinner’by Hunter Hayes

 

There’s two kinds of prayers on your knees
The ones that you need and the ones that you mean
Whatever I think or believe
Either way, you are the answer for me

Somewhere between darkness and light
And the gray where we live between wrong and right
Whether I’m lost or I’m washed in the river
You love me a saint or a sinner

From hellbent and chasing a dream
To crying and coming apart at the seams
I’m a love story full of extremes
Yeah, I’d never ask you but you’ll always be

Somewhere between darkness and light
And the gray where we live between wrong and right
Whether I’m lost or I’m washed in the river
You love me a saint or a sinner
Yeah, you love me a saint or a sinner

I love you, there’s no secret why
But the reasons you love me are harder to find
It doesn’t add up, at least not to me
But somehow you see who I’m trying to be

Somewhere between darkness and light
And the gray where we live between wrong and right
Whether I’m lost or I’m washed in the river
You love me a saint or a sinner
You love me a saint or a sinner, yeah

Somehow we’ve stumbled our way into love
A long life with you isn’t long enough
Somehow we’ve stumbled our way into love
A long life with you isn’t long enough
You love me a saint or a sinner
You love me a saint or a sinner

‘There is another door!’ by Steven Furtick

Turn what looks like a dead-end into your biggest opportunity, wisdom, and strength. Life’s biggest opportunities, greatest opportunities, aren’t always obvious. David’s biggest wisdom was born after his greatest mistake; read 1 Kings in the Old Testament.

Mark 2:1-12 NIV;  Jesus Forgives and Heals a Paralyzed Man

A few days later, when Jesus again entered Capernaum, the people heard that he had come home. They gathered in such large numbers that there was no room left, not even outside the door, and he preached the word to them. Some men came, bringing to him a paralyzed man, carried by four of them. Since they could not get him to Jesus because of the crowd, they made an opening in the roof above Jesus by digging through it and then lowered the mat the man was lying on. When Jesus saw their faith, he said to the paralyzed man, “Son, your sins are forgiven.”

Now some teachers of the law were sitting there, thinking to themselves, “Why does this fellow talk like that? He’s blaspheming! Who can forgive sins but God alone?”

Immediately Jesus knew in his spirit that this was what they were thinking in their hearts, and he said to them, “Why are you thinking these things? Which is easier: to say to this paralyzed man, ‘Your sins are forgiven,’ or to say, ‘Get up, take your mat and walk’? 10 But I want you to know that the Son of Man has authority on earth to forgive sins.” So he said to the man, 11 “I tell you, get up, take your mat and go home.” 12 He got up, took his mat and walked out in full view of them all. This amazed everyone and they praised God, saying, “We have never seen anything like this!”

John 11. Sometimes God lets things die first in order to resurrect them for you. Our biggest opportunities aren’t always obvious. Jesus even taught wisdom in parables. He hid them, making it not obvious.

Disappointment; The door is closed. It’s not God’s will for our friend to be healed today. If it was, we would have gotten through the door. But they’ve come this far. They didn’t come this far to go home. Sometimes the reason you got rejected was because it was not your door. It was the wrong level of relationship for you. Go higher. When they go low, we go high! Sometimes the greatest thing that can happen in your life is to be turned away at the front door. Because you discover another door. This is not for normal people. This is not for people who wanna quit church because it was 97 degrees. This is for people who are determined. Mark mentions faith four times. And he writes about actions you can take. Faith is something you can see. It’s something you can see; actions, in response to something you cannot see; hope. I’m gonna find a way to get through.

Oppression;

Obedience; Trust God in impossible situations. It is the grace that we are saved. By faith.

Immorality

 

James 4:7-8

So humble yourselves before God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.Come close to God, and God will come close to you. Wash your hands, you sinners; purify your hearts, for your loyalty is divided between God and the world.

Matthew 5:29-30

29 So if your eye—even your good eye—causes you to lust, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. 30 And if your hand—even your stronger hand—causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.

1 Corinthians 6:18

18 Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.

Galatians 5:19-21

19 When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the results are very clear: sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures, 20 idolatry, sorcery, hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division,21 envy, drunkenness, wild parties, and other sins like these. Let me tell you again, as I have before, that anyone living that sort of life will not inherit the Kingdom of God.

Colossians 3:5

So put to death the sinful, earthly things lurking within you. Have nothing to do with sexual immorality, impurity, lust, and evil desires. Don’t be greedy, for a greedy person is an idolater, worshiping the things of this world.

Proverbs 5-7, 

Avoid Immoral Women

My son, pay attention to my wisdom;
    listen carefully to my wise counsel.
Then you will show discernment,
    and your lips will express what you’ve learned.
For the lips of an immoral woman are as sweet as honey,
    and her mouth is smoother than oil.
But in the end she is as bitter as poison,
    as dangerous as a double-edged sword.
Her feet go down to death;
    her steps lead straight to the grave.[a]
For she cares nothing about the path to life.
    She staggers down a crooked trail and doesn’t realize it.

So now, my sons, listen to me.
    Never stray from what I am about to say:
Stay away from her!
    Don’t go near the door of her house!
If you do, you will lose your honor
    and will lose to merciless people all you have achieved.
10 Strangers will consume your wealth,
    and someone else will enjoy the fruit of your labor.
11 In the end you will groan in anguish
    when disease consumes your body.
12 You will say, “How I hated discipline!
    If only I had not ignored all the warnings!
13 Oh, why didn’t I listen to my teachers?
    Why didn’t I pay attention to my instructors?
14 I have come to the brink of utter ruin,
    and now I must face public disgrace.”

15 Drink water from your own well—
    share your love only with your wife.[b]
16 Why spill the water of your springs in the streets,
    having sex with just anyone?[c]
17 You should reserve it for yourselves.
    Never share it with strangers.

18 Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you.
    Rejoice in the wife of your youth.
19 She is a loving deer, a graceful doe.
    Let her breasts satisfy you always.
    May you always be captivated by her love.
20 Why be captivated, my son, by an immoral woman,
    or fondle the breasts of a promiscuous woman?

21 For the Lord sees clearly what a man does,
    examining every path he takes.
22 An evil man is held captive by his own sins;
    they are ropes that catch and hold him.
23 He will die for lack of self-control;
    he will be lost because of his great foolishness.

1 Corinthians 6:13, 18, 19

13 You say, “Food was made for the stomach, and the stomach for food.” (This is true, though someday God will do away with both of them.) But you can’t say that our bodies were made for sexual immorality. They were made for the Lord, and the Lord cares about our bodies.

18 Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.

19 Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself,

Proverbs 6:25

25 Don’t lust for her beauty.
    Don’t let her coy glances seduce you.

Proverbs 7:5

Let them protect you from an affair with an immoral woman,
    from listening to the flattery of a promiscuous woman.

1 Thessalonians 4:3

God’s will is for you to be holy, so stay away from all sexual sin.

1 Corinthians 10:13

13 The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure.

2 Timothy 2:22

22 Run from anything that stimulates youthful lusts. Instead, pursue righteous living, faithfulness, love, and peace. Enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts.

Romans 13:13

13 Because we belong to the day, we must live decent lives for all to see. Don’t participate in the darkness of wild parties and drunkenness, or in sexual promiscuity and immoral living, or in quarreling and jealousy.

Hebrews 13:4

Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.

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